Problems affect opportunities. When faced with challenges, how do you usually react? Do you avoid them altogether? Or do you devise a plan to overcome them? And when your plans fail, how do you feel? Do you feel angry and eventually give up? Or do you feel intrigued and try again?
It’s an impossible feat to avoid pitfalls in the course of your life. No one in the history of humankind has had the privilege of being The Only One Without Problems. But some people take failures better than others. It’s all about the mindset.
Growth Mindset Vs. Fixed Mindset
Courtesy of Burst via Pexels
There are two ways one can look at a dilemma; a growth mindset or a fixed mindset. What mainly differentiates the two is their definition of failing.
A growth mindset looks at problems as challenges and sees opportunities to learn in failures. A person with a growth mindset believes that they can achieve their goals through hard work and perseverance. They learn from criticism and other people’s triumphs.
A fixed mindset, on the other hand, believes that abilities and talents are innate gifts and that hard work won’t change anything. People with a fixed mindset don’t put a lot of effort into their activities because they think it’s not very worthy. They take criticism negatively, and they feel threatened by other people’s success.
How your mindset affects your life
Courtesy of Spencer Selover via Pexels
How you look at things isn’t always constant. It’s a never-ending battle with yourself to keep seeing dilemmas as opportunities for growth. When things keep spiraling out of control, it’s challenging to convince yourself you can change them. A lot of people would much rather not disturb the current and just let things be.
But ask yourself: are you really living a life you want if you’re not doing anything to change anything? Are you content with letting the world decide your next years for you because you’re afraid of stepping out of your comfort zone and finally taking the wheel?
You risk losing a lot of opportunities at work and in relationships if you keep a fixed mindset. It can even affect your mental health negatively. With a fixed mindset, you might choose not to try for that promotion because you think you’ll never get it, or that you don’t deserve a raise with your current skills. In romantic relationships, you might just let the person you like to go because you don’t think that they’ll like you as you are.
Courtesy of Andrea Piacquadio via Pexels
A person with a growth mindset would avail of the promotion as soon as possible. If they don’t have the necessary skills, they’ll search for ways to enhance their knowledge, whether through asking for help from higher-ups or attending the training. And a person with a growth mindset will take the leap of faith and ask the person they like out, the feeling of getting to know someone you like is better than feeling afraid they’ll reject you.
People with a growth mindset are always working on learning. When faced with challenges, they ask themselves, “How will I improve after this?” and not, “How will I cope if I fail?”
It doesn’t matter much if they failed in their attempts because, in the process, they gained knowledge they wouldn’t have gotten without the effort. And that can easily be considered a win. People with a fixed mindset always lose because they hardly ever try.